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About Me
About Mistress
What made You decide to become a professional Domina?
I was born with a serious dominant and theatrical streak. I love being in control and it gives Me great satisfaction to have power over someone elses pleasure and pain. My dominance over the male of the species has been inherent within Me from an early age and I have honed My skills manipulating their bodies, minds and souls for My pleasure and amusement ever since. I am creative, skilful and humorous and love nothing more than My pets striving to please Me.
How many years scene experience do You have?
I have over 10 years experience both personally and professionally at present (2011). I have had a lifelong fascination with all things fetish and had been involved in active BDSM privately before venturing out as a Pro-Domme.
Did You train under/with someone?
I did not have anyone to teach Me as such, however I did experience domination Myself when I was first discovering the scene. Being submissive to someone simply wasn't for Me & I always wanted to be the one in control so My role was obvious from the start. I found that with My warped imagination, and having developed an understanding of the fine line between pain and pleasure, becoming a Mistress was the logical route to take. The knowledge of BDSM that I have acquired has been through a combination of research, practical application and a lot of common sense. I have friends on the scene and play with them as often as possible to trade ideas & experiment! I find that everyone who comes to see Me has a few of their own unique ideas which spark My creative juices and I use this to constantly develop new methods of torment and put a new twist on things.
Where are You based?
South East Essex, UK; within easy reach of London by mainline train (approx 35-40 minutes) or road.
your First Time
What advice would You give to those looking to worship a Mistress for the first time?
First, be aware that a Mistress is not an escort or a prostitute; there are plenty of people offering these services elsewhere,
so if that is what you are looking for DO NOT waste a Pro-Domme's time by enquiring after Her services. It is insulting.
Do your research; use the Internet, magazines, etc and draw up a shortlist of Dominas who attract you and areas you are interested in.
Find out what She takes pleasure in, what Her limits are and whether the two of you are likely to be compatible.
Before you schedule a session make sure you are fully prepared to turn your fantasies into reality. Once the door to Her world shuts, reality stays outside.
Make sure you are precise and detailed in your communications; explain what you hope to gain from a session, what your interests are, etc.
Don't be embarrassed to discuss your fantasies and be totally honest; it can help give your Mistress an insight into your thoughts and
develop a more trusting and mutually beneficial relationship.
Don't be surprised if the tribute for a Pro-Domme seems expensive; all that equipment (plus outfits, shoes, boots, etc) doesn't come cheap you know!
People often think that professional Mistresses have appointments lined up back to back every day but this is simply not the case; at least not for Me.
I limit My sessions & won't play with just anyone, preferring to build a good relationship with My boys
& therefore meaning a much better experience for U/us both.
Sessions can often be mentally demanding as well as physically draining, so to try & jam in as many sessions as possible would mean a reduction of
quality of play & My enjoyment (and in turn My sub's enjoyment) - and I am a perfectionist so that simply won't do!!!
Be mindful of your Mistress' time; like any other professional Her time is valuable and
She will not be impressed if you waste it.
Do NOT make an appointment unless you are sure that you can attend and if you can't then advise your Mistress at the earliest opportunity.
Simply not turning up will not be acceptable and will most likely ensure you are blacklisted and refused booking again.
Make sure that your Mistress conducts sessions according to “Safe, Sane & Consensual" practices and will agree a "safe word" for use during
a session. I use the traffic light system. Green means - all ok, carry on. Amber - I am close to my limits but ok for now. Red - stop please.
Be polite and respectful at all times!
In Your initial consultation/session with a new sub, what information do You ask for?
My initial consultation is very thorough so allows Me a greater insight into the submissive's interests and desires. I explore their previous experiences, health issues that could affect their sessions (both physical and mental), limits (pain, marks, etc), style of Domination (sensual, strict etc), particular fetishes or areas of interest, etc. This information is all used to help ensure the sessions are as enjoyable as possible for both of us.
How do You measure a subs limits?
I always agree a safe word before any sessions and My consultations provide Me with a lot of detail before I even contemplate playing with a new slave, as I have explained previously. I will try to push the limits of a sub but am always careful to be respectful of their needs. I also look out for indicators such as body language, body temperature, etc, all of which are extremely important.
What can a new slave do to please You in his or her first visit?
I like My slaves to be honest, respectful and clean (both inside and out).
Fully shaven is preferable as I like to be able to see
exactly what I'm doing and I do get tempted to trim, pluck, shave and sometimes wax or epilate if I feel that no effort has been
made to look presentable for Me!
Of course, I love to be brought gifts and if slaves have had the insight to ask what I like before they come to see Me then that
always makes Me a little more "amicable" :-) I appreciate little personal touches like that; things that prove an effort is being made to please Me & not just themselves.
My wish list information for suitable items can be found
here.
How do You deal with timewasters?
No advance deposit, no session. Simple.
To organise a real-time session with Me visit the sessions page
here.
In Session
Do You have favourite types of scenes?
I always like to try new things but I do like playing with My electric devices for interrogation/fun. I also really enjoy teasing, role-play & humiliation (I love a really good laugh at My slave's expense!), foot-worship, trampling, cp - they are all good as long as the game is played by My rules; otherwise what's the point? See the Sessions page for detailed information about scenarios I enjoy.
Is there any type of scene You do not do?
I do not do scat, watersports, needle play, heavy medical play or anything that will put life in danger or cause permanent marks or damage - after all I too have My limits! Any subs who cannot understand that should look elsewhere. I am interested in pushing your limits not Mine!
Do You consider laughter part of a normal session?
Yes. I have a good laugh sometimes and I also do tickle torture ... so I should hope so! My sense of humour is wicked and brings a certain something special, especially to humiliation scenes.
Is music important to Your sessions?
Not always; it depends on my mood. Sometimes the sounds of the dungeon can create fantastic anticipation - especially if the sub is blindfolded or facing away from Me; just to hear the clicking of My boots or a soft sensual whisper in their ear, the tapping of My heel or the static of My violet wand, not to mention the sound that is made by a crop or paddle as it moves through the air just prior to impacting on bare flesh. If I do play music it can be anything from Opera to pounding hard rock, but generally I prefer atmospheric sounds that build in momentum in a similar way to My sessions.
Do You think You are more physical, psychological or theatrical during a session?
I like to think that I am a perfect combination of all of these aspects as I consider each has its own importance. Above all I am genuine in My love of Domination.
How do You prefer subs/slaves to address You?
Mistress is fine. Some more worshipful boys like to use "Goddess" which is nice (or "Your Majesty" LOL I've been called that by a few slaves & I like that! ;-))
Do You session with female subs, novices and/or couples?
Everyone is welcome; I receive subs of all ages over the age of 21 and up to 70 years old, as long as they are fit enough. I have subs of all levels from novice to very experienced. My slaves come in all sizes, shapes, colours and creeds; from human animals to transsexuals (pre-op and post-op), via bisexuals, males, females and transvestites. No matter which category you fall into you will all be treated with the same contempt! ;-)
I am sure You have favourite clients and playmates... but what qualities make them stand out from the others?
Loyalty, devotion, eagerness to please and thoughtfulness are primary qualities which appeal to Me. Subs who are not too strict with their likes or dislikes and are willing to let Me get inside their mind, to push their limits and experience new things with Me. The ones who I favour have been with Me for years and don't put their own desires before Mine; that does not mean to say that new slaves cannot become favourites; these things take time and trust must be earned and developed. I expect the highest standards from My slaves and will not stand for disrespect of any kind.
>Session Favourites
You are known for Your lovely feet. Do You enjoy having them worshipped?
I love foot worship; there is nothing better than feeling a soft tongue running over the soles of My feet and between My toes. It gives Me such pleasure after a long period of trampling, kicking, etc! A nice, firm massage with oils or lotions always helps to keep them soft. Foot worshipers are more than welcome!!!
Do You prefer teasing foot slaves in boots or open toe shoes?
It depends who I am teasing. If I know that they are longing to touch and play with My feet then I might wear something that reveals just enough to get them on the edge. Once they know every inch of My feet then I might switch and don My boots, so that the anticipation of the boots being slowly unzipped or unlaced is almost climactic. It depends.
Do You enjoy humiliating Your slaves if they are into it?
I simple love humiliating, degrading and generally breaking My slaves; I like to let them know who is boss. Verbal abuse comes naturally to Me and that - coupled with spitting or face slapping amongst other things - can be one of the harshest weapons of all.
Do You also engage in public play or humiliation with slaves?
I have taken a few of My loyal slaves on shopping sprees, car journeys and to events, during which they are subtly (and sometimes not so subtly) put through their paces! Honoured slaves are allowed to accompany Me to fetish clubs or shopping events and I enjoy opening their eyes to new experiences, plus being able to spend time with them out of session means a greater understanding develops within the relationship.
Do You enjoy corporal punishment?
Definitely. I have a variety of implements from the softest, sensual suede flogger to evil canes & paddles. I love the first flush of colour on bare skin & watching it deepen & develop as the strokes become harder & layer one on top of another. Of course a good old fashioned spanking can be just as much fun. Either bare handed or maybe with kid leather gloves!
Has anything ever happened in a scene which made You laugh?
All the time, usually at a slave's expense, there are way too many things to list! Tickle torture is always fun though & there have been a few incidents with a "jet-propelled" electric butt plug which have had Me in fits of giggles!
Other Information
What is Your favourite type of clothing? Does this affect Your mood and/or how Dominant You feel?
I love all of My outfits so it is incredibly hard to choose
but I am partial to My corsets. I love the way they constrain Me,
making My posture so erect and accentuating the curves of My body. They add a perfect finishing touch to almost every outfit whether it be satin skirt & blouse with classic high heeled court shoes or a leather ensemble, embracing skin with skin.
I adore the smell and feel of leather (patent or normal) and have a variety of items of clothing and boots/shoes. I love the way it gives off it's unique primal scent as it warms up next to My skin.
Rubber is a unique fabric which can, in its own way, add to a scene; again it brings its own scent and light reflects off its polished surfaces highlighting the curves of the body.
My moods vary so much and I dress to suit them but I always try to pick something that will compliment the style of a session, whether authentic
military uniforms, business suits or sensual silks and satins. you can see a selection of My different outfits
on My Imagery page.
Do You have Your own dungeon/playroom?
Yes. I have My own cosy, yet fully equipped, playroom & also use of domestic & small office spaces for more relaxed scenes or role-plays. I utilise a wide variety of equipment - see Dungeon page for further information on equipment & toys.
But You are much more than a professional and lifestyle Domina; perhaps You could share one or two of Your other interests?
I love music and like nothing more than to lose Myself creating My own, on either guitar or keyboard. I
also enjoy being creative and making things; be it to wear or to use in the dungeon (I am a Woman who loves Her power tools!!!).
I love computer games - PS3 mainly (but also the Wii). I love Tomb Raider & RPG games involving killing & thieving! LOL.
I am an ardent animal lover - except spiders!
What are Your favourite types of gifts?
Thoughtful ones! I like gifts for My personal use such as clothing (rubber, leather, satin or PVC) boots, shoes, etc - all of which I must select (and preferably try on) so I do love a
planned shopping trip. New equipment for the dungeon has to be discussed
first but is always appreciated! See My wish list here.
Other gifts that are not so complicated: money (obviously), a good red wine or high street gift vouchers (Tesco, Debenhams,
Boots or Game for example).
Alternatively I have a wish list on Amazon with various things that I would like
- see
here.
Of course if money is no object then the gifts are limitless: money ££££, a car (Mercedes; a powerful and sexy machine), houses (I really quite like the idea of being a property tycoon), a boat (well why not?), etc; whatever you like, the list is endless!
If You became locked in a dungeon, which of these following things would You like to have with You?
Drink?
Gin & tonic or Coke Zero.
Food?
Cheese (but not blue)! Or Chinese. Or a nice steak.
Music?
Bizet's Carmen or a dance compilation but My musical taste is very varied.
And what movie would You like to have with You?
Mmmm can't pick one so.... The Shawshank Redemption. Saw (Any of them). Tomb Raider I & II. Elvira :-D
Incidentally...... surely if I was locked in a dungeon I would need a convenient slave to beat too??
Personal Information
Eyes: Amber
Hair: Dark brown, long
Dress size: 10-12
Height: 5' 4"
Vital statistics: 32e-28-35
Birth sign: Gemini
Role: Lifestyle dominant Goddess, Humiliatrix & professional Dominatrix
Location: Essex, United Kingdom
Fetish/BDSM interests: Leather, rubber, satin, high heels, shoes and boots,
gloves, corsets, foot fetish, shoe and boot worship, humiliation, verbal abuse, forced feminisation,
sensual tease, shopping, spoiling, financial abuse & mental control.
And finally!
Why would visiting You be a special experience?
Anyone who visits Me will encounter a glamorous, welcoming Dominant who is open minded with a wicked sense of humour,
great imagination and a strong right arm! They will find a safe, clean, comfortable & well equipped environment in which to live out
their fetishes & fantasies. Limits are always respected but may be pushed and new experiences will always be available as I like to
add to & update My methods & toys constantly.
All of these things add up to a very special experience - with Me!
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